We’ve all done things we’re ashamed of. We’ve done things that have hurt others and ourselves. Some things may have been intentional, and some may have been out of our control.
What makes us lose control?
Everybody likes to feel like they have control of everything that happens to their life. After all is said and done, it is our lives right? Who better to control it than ourselves. Life is your playing board, and every move you make has a direct impact on yourself.
It is comforting to think that we are the masters of everything that happens to our lives. It leads us away from fear and brings us to the realization that if we want something, we have to work for it. It won’t come to us by some other force. A sense of control on our lives leads people to strive for greatness and push past obstacles.
But at what point do we lose our control? Is it possible to lose control and yet feel like you still have it? Othello would certainly agree so. We lose control when we become desperate. Desperation leads us to make rash decisions that we often regret later.
What people forget all too often is that there are always other people playing the same game as you. There are people trying to either achieve what you want, or who just like to watch the world burn and to go great lengths to avoid your happiness.
These people advance every time you move a piece into a new vulnerable state. They might even begin teaming up against you, making it harder for you to escape, in order to achieve their goal.
When we allow ourselves to be devoured by outside forces, we do things we are later ashamed of. Never allow other people to see your vulnerabilities.